what happens when a guy cheats

[lakhor]

Originally Posted by Kendra1

trust me i'm no fool, i'm no doormat nor am i very jealous (which only helps to push someone away) my partner is the same so it works alhamdulilah.
theres a big difference between talking about and looking at other women and actually going off with them..My rule is 'its fine to look but don't touch' and it works for me.
Of course i know my man talks to his friends about women and looks at them too, i wasn't born yesterday u know !. it is about trust, i could very easily go out and do the same thing too, i even tell him if someone else asks for my number who is interested in me and he does the same.
When you find a relationship where u are completely at ease with the person and there are no secrets then you will know that it is possible.

I want that!

Just saying that most men think about other women. True big difference between seeing and talking about it as oppposed to action. What if your man could get away with it? also if your wife knows about the fidelity then you crush the relationship. not saying you gals are paranoid. We have all had that, "where have you been argument". or is it just me

[Kendra1]

insha allah Lakhor you will have it

some guys like their women to fuss and get paranoid about a relationship, it makes them feel more powerful and in control, that is definitely not my kind of man.A real man doesn't need to prove anything, and nor should his woman.A relationship should be about harmony, if it doesn't work, get out of it
all sounds very fanciful and easy, of course we have had some blazing rows..but they are healthy and constructive, then you move on.

when we 1st got together i laid down some 'ground rules', one of them was if he ever cheated on me it was over immediately, whether i found out straight away or a year later, and vice-versa for him. Even now a few years down the line, i still believe in that rule.I'd rather be dumped by someone,than cheated on.As Ghazala said that is a clear sign that there is a problem in the relationship...and if we can find our joy, then so can you

Well said Kendra, may allah bless you and your guy to a happy life inshallah!!

Its takes two to make a relationship work, if a woman can offer all that one needs from a relationship, why look else where?...

Thats why its important to get the best you can, dont settle for second best!!