URGENT URGENT HELP NEEDED NOW PLEASE!!!!!!

[funkygirl]

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[voltaires_priest]

Funkygirl;

It sounds awful, but for your own sake, this really isn't something you should be discussing on an open internet forum. Try asking someone via email or MSN

It's a question concerning a particular issue she has, that a Moroccan member could help with. Can anybody help?


V

[micael]

Hi,

Sorry to hear about this. While in any relationship be it pre or post marital, there needs to be mutual trust.

The primary foundations of marriage are based around mutual trust, respect and honesty.

While I dont want to really advise you either way, ie to stay with him or leave him, I will put a few points to you...

You have to accept that he will be the father of the child, and will be in contact with his ex. How would you be able to handle this? He has cheated once, there is a chance he may do it again... you have to be prepared.

Seems to me that this is very one side kind of love, and believe me, it is not a basis for marriage if he is doing all sorts (Im talking from personal experience here, having been on teh receiving end) you will only be left hurt in the long run.

I suggest you pray (assuming you are muslim) salat Istikhara and ask allah for guidance.

Good luck!

[funkygirl]

Originally posted by voltaires_priest
Funkygirl;

It sounds awful, but for your own sake, this really isn't something you should be discussing on an open internet forum. Try asking someone via email or MSN

It's a question concerning a particular issue she has, that a Moroccan member could help with. Can anybody help?


V

I hope we have a lawyer looking in!!
Thanks for your advice I have chilled out a bit now.
I dont know who else to ask thats why im here now.

Thanks again

PEACE

[funkygirl]

Originally posted by micael
Hi,

Sorry to hear about this. While in any relationship be it pre or post marital, there needs to be mutual trust.

The primary foundations of marriage are based around mutual trust, respect and honesty.

While I dont want to really advise you either way, ie to stay with him or leave him, I will put a few points to you...

You have to accept that he will be the father of the child, and will be in contact with his ex. How would you be able to handle this? He has cheated once, there is a chance he may do it again... you have to be prepared.

Seems to me that this is very one side kind of love, and believe me, it is not a basis for marriage if he is doing all sorts (Im talking from personal experience here, having been on teh receiving end) you will only be left hurt in the long run.

I suggest you pray (assuming you are muslim) salat Istikhara and ask allah for guidance.

Good luck!

His being thefather of the child is not a problem as I have three of my own.
He didnt cheat on his ex, she told me that they were unmarried and had broken up, she had no problem. He knows that I cant sleep with him and this is what makes it harder as he said I should walk away. He isnt asking for me to do anything but I know that I will lose him forever if I do this.
At least I know now the truth and im going to ring him now.
I am not a muslim but I pray for guidance always as it is the only way.
THANKYOU VERY MUCH for your help.

PEACE and LOVE

funkygirl, what seems to be the problem here?

[Tekab]

Originally posted by Jefferson8
funkygirl, what seems to be the problem here?

Jefferson, why don't you stick to politics and leave the human issues to others....