Kendra

Originally posted by _thetruth
Jeff

advice to u brov if you want to get a woman you need to delete your signature first. here is a tip for you on how to pull a lady that may help and you can thank you brov TI

Playing the proper role is very, very important... especially when a relationship is young -- when a role hasn't yet solidified. It's critical to make your position or your potential position known early on, so when your role sets, it sets as what you want it to be!

For instance, in the beginning of all relationships Mr X had... if X had made comments based on interest in a deeper or even merely sexual relationship... he'd been able to easily segue himself from acquaintance to lover or significant other.

I say I but it doesn't mean me IT'S JUST AN EXAMPLE HERE OK?
In those cases whereby I give no hint of myself as a potential 'man' in a women's life, it's been akin to pulling teeth to get that women interested in me at a later date. (Likewise, for many friends who've later become interested in me.. it's like they had to pull my teeth to get me interested)

Again, if there's any hint that I may be interested in a women when I first meet her... I stir up some kind of interest within her -- I give some hint of my potential role, and hers. Even if one of us decides to get together with the other one years down the line... it'll be possible if we had previously created a spark of potential identity. If we hadn't, there'll be little chance of integrating anything deeper into the relationship.

Remember, plant the seed of your identity or potential identity early on. It's at the start of the relationship that the soil is ripe for bearing this fruit. Changing positions is very difficult once they've become established.

For example, take relationships you've had with family or long lasting friends. Do you remember ever making some drastic changes in your life, and then having someone you've had a long standing relationship with you, say "What are you doing? That's not you!"... or "That's not the (your name here) I know", or "Where's (your name here)? You're not being yourself.") But, of course you're being yourself! You're yourself all the time! However, their version of you -- the one that they keep in their heads -- is still set in the past. And oftentimes, for reasons that befuddle me to this day, that ideal won't change except with the most flexible and accepting of friends and family. Most people, when they get set in their ways, get set in their ways HARD.

Similarly, think of a lover you've had that has gone away... and then come back, even if only for a brief fling. Somehow, because you've played the position of lovers before, it's easy to play it again. Almost too easy. That's why ex-lovers tend to try to stay away from each other. If they don't keep physical distance, they know -- unconsciously or consciously -- that it's all too easy to fall into their past roles

GOOD LUCK

Fkih Tihad, I asked for a simple advice, not a lengthy Mo7adara.