Why are we moroccans so busy with.....

[danishgirl]

how other people live. I am sick and tired of moroccan women being busy with other moroccan girls way of living. It is like they have no life, I think they don't since they keep being nosy about others peoples lifes. Tell me is it like this everywere you meet moroccan women or is is just in Denmark.??????????I am curios?:-(

[Kendra1]

unfortunately hbiba its everywhere..thats why i have few moroccan female friends..choose your friends very carefully, the good ones are real diamonds and will be there for you for life

[HOUDA-K]

Salam/ Hello Danish Girl,

That's not just Moroccan women, that's just women. And, as for nosey women whenever they pry into your affairs just reply with a smile and ask them, "Why do you want to know?."

Regrettably, the nosey Moroccan women you are reffering to appear to have a right to speak into your life. And without a doubt you're more than likely get the worst of the bargain when you exchange ideas with them ~ ya latif !

As for what Kendra said ~ I agree. I would go to the extent in saying that one should never discuss their problems with someone who's incapable of contributing to the solution, because those who never succeed themselves are always first to tell you how.

Having said this, NOT all Moroccan girls follow the stereotypes of jealousy, mockery and scandals. There are those who lead a submissive life, and I've met a handful of amazing Moroccan women both in the UK and Morocco. Just goes to show generalisations are meaningless.

Take care

[LDNgirl]

Salam girls,

having lived my life at the brunt of all Moroccan womens rumours, I have found out the hard way that it is a defence mechanism.

Moroccan people are generally very proud people, even though most have very little to be proud about. The way that they make themselves feel better about themselves, their families, or financial situation, is to pick on other peoples "flaws" or indiscrepancies, but more than this to let everyone they know about it. This is so that they are out of the focus for a while, and plus they can take the self-righous stance.

Another thing with most Moroccan women, predominantly those who are born in Morocco, have married young, and originate from small towns, is that from when they born, they have been pre-conditioned to believe that a womans worth is how much she can please her man. Whether it be through cooking, good charecter, how submissive she is, and whether she gives in to all him carnal whims and desires. They have always been protected from harm, whether it be from their fathers and extended male family members, and then straight to their husbands houses. We assume that they have been safe living like this for around 35 years (married 15 -20 years old, have their first daughter and she is now 15 years). Plus Moroccan woman around them is the same. Our generation are brought up in a country where we are taught that our worht is for ourselves only, that we can experience things, but in a way where we have to take responsibility for our actions and learn the hard way that in any situation we have to set our boudries.

This is SOOOOOOOOOOOOO foreign to them. As by their reasoning, girls are not supposed to do this (whether it be going out, having male friends etc..) By their reasoning, in the presence of a male, our underwear just drops off, or if we go out, then we must have had a drink, smoke, snog and a bit of touchy-feely.

Sadly, some Moroccan girls have grown up with the same attitude as their parents... and like Kendra said... YOU KEEP WELL AWAY FROM MOROCCANS as friends. It's the norm nowadays, and a very sad one.

- Sorry for the long post guys, just needed to share my theory lol...

[Kendra1]

ladies,
very valid points indeed, i would just like to add and back up your comments too that it is not just an issue with moroccan women but all women (i had this conversation with my tunisian and asian female friends just the other day)but as you are moroccan danishgirl,then many moroccan women will believe it is their godgiven right to pry and judge you.I too have learn't from experience,when i was younger i would silently fume and now that i'm a little older (wiser i hope too ) and don't care what people think, i am often very direct and blunt in my responses which does the trick as they don't quite know what to say after that and leave you well alone..this has worked a treat with annoying relatives for starters
It is a sad fact that we don't support each other as perhaps some other communities do,but whereever you are there will always be somebody trying to bring you down..look out for that person and keep them at a distance..on the other hand there will be somebody who will try to hold you up and let you shine..they're the only ones you want in your life
i hope this helps

[pancit]

moroccans looove to gossip..boy i swear every moroccan i kno knows someone else i know and their business....weiiiird....

[_nadia_]

The best thing is to avoid keeping company with so many Moroccan women it's sad but true. Choose your friends very wisely...but as Houda said, this doesn't just apply to Moroccans, it's widespread! Having said that, European women don't seem to such gossip mongers do they...?