Marriage

[Sista]

For the women on the board

What reasons would you consider when deciding whether to get married? In this day and age there are alot of external factors that influence the decision, family possibly being no.1. The reason i say for the women is because, from an islamic perspective and situation it appears there is more pressure (i could be wrong). Fella's feel free to contribute

[atir1]

Hi Sista
Regarding your question, I would only marry if I felt it was the right thing to do. There is a lot of pressure to marry, especially if children are involved. I used to feel really strongly that it was important to be married first, then have children, but life doesn't always go to plan. If people find themselves unmarried, but in long term relationships, then so be it. Timshi feen mashek allah.

[-thetruth]

Originally posted by atir1
Hi Sista
If people find themselves unmarried, but in long term relationships, then so be it. Timshi feen mashek allah.

You mean unmarried but have sex everyday with a partner ??? Ahoodo bilah men shaytan a rajeem
thats an evil act to promote,if that is the case why not just make it halal in front of people you only need two witnesses and do not need to go to the registery either since Allah is watching? and you can only ask for $1 as a mahr. Strange walah!!!!!!!!!!!!

[atir1]

Relax -thetruth
Your opinion is rather forceful. Surely what people decide to do is between themselves and their conscience.
Who are you to judge?
I suggest you sort yourself out first and only when you consider yourself so pure, that you have nothing left to work on, should you share such feelings. The question was asked and I answered it honestly. I consider marriage to be very important, however I would not marry because I was told I should, or felt I had to, I would marry because it was the right thing to do.. at that time, or with that person. I certainly would not be forced into marriage against my will, from pressure from outsiders, which is exactly where you are coming from!

[Ghazala]

Originally posted by Sista
For the women on the board

What reasons would you consider when deciding whether to get married? In this day and age there are alot of external factors that influence the decision, family possibly being no.1. The reason i say for the women is because, from an islamic perspective and situation it appears there is more pressure (i could be wrong). Fella's feel free to contribute

It has to be someone you are compatible with & can respect. Someone you can view as a good friend. Families can place pressure but its ultimately your decision as to who you choose to spend your life with.

[atir1]

I agree with that Ghazala.

[-thetruth]

Originally posted by atir1
Relax -thetruth
Your opinion is rather forceful. Surely what people decide to do is between themselves and their conscience.
Who are you to judge?
I suggest you sort yourself out first and only when you consider yourself so pure, that you have nothing left to work on, should you share such feelings. The question was asked and I answered it honestly. I consider marriage to be very important, however I would not marry because I was told I should, or felt I had to, I would marry because it was the right thing to do.. at that time, or with that person. I certainly would not be forced into marriage against my will, from pressure from outsiders, which is exactly where you are coming from!

Thank you.I am sorry i didn't realise that I offended you however I didn't say that fornication is haram Allah said it. there are people who are very young and do not understand the complexity of that and reading your post would feel it's ok. Allah knows best.