Marriage

[-thetruth]

Originally posted by Anisa
Its MR Purity himself... Ti you really need to stop behaving like a hypocrite and a saint at the same time

Weeli weeli a khai, you need to live & let live & stop judging everyone you don't agree with!

On the subject of marriage- Its difficult these days as people seem to give up too easily on their marriage. It is a scary prospect, but having said that I believe that when you find the right person to settle down with you have to take a chance.

Salam
Anisa before you jump and speak out of nowhere especially from where the sun does not shine read the post carefully. I said that is my opinion not yours and you will find that you are the hypocrite not me because I only said what God instructed us and if you happened to disagree with God then to him you will return and he will judge you fairly.and Allah knows best.
I only said that having a boyfriend/girlfiend is haram because our prophete(pbuh) warned us of that and the scholars said it as well and even if you happened not to be a muslim you will find that all religions forbids that full stop and I also said that Marriage is a contract between two people who are not perfect and can easily distanced from each others even if they are like Romeo and Juliette.
If you are not religious then go ahead and do what you want you do not need help in that department.if not then next time shut it and sit down and learn

Originally posted by Sista
Nak can you expand on zawaj al mot3a?

When i said external factors i wasnt referring just to family. I talking about society at large especially the moroccan! I dont have any stats to hand but i know that the culture in morocco supports, with girls especially, getting married at a younger age. Its obviously for many reasons but what i wanted to know is how much consideration would you give to accepting a proposal on that basis, i.e. not leaving it too long. This is including the fact the man is someone who you get on well with, share interests etc and who you as an individual are happy to spend your life with, but just want more time before getting married.

[Kautar]

thank you Sista for your reply
Sorry but i can't really understand how someone can rationalize a love feeling. If you ( in general Sista not you) meet a man you ask firstly if he's muslim? If you see the eyes of a man you see into him something special you renounce to know him? And if you have a non muslim friend is it impossible fall in love for a lot of different reasons? How you can guide your heart, Falling in love is at first irrational, afterwards you try to make it more rational. Yes, there could be real problems between different religion and traditions it's difficult, especially with children, but you choose then you're man on the bases of which criterias? Good man?(how do you know?) good moral principles( how do you know? good muslim? ( are you sure?)
Sorry Sista i've made the question to you but it was a general question and what i've written it's only my opinion

Peace

[Sista]

Salam Kautor

No problem with your questions, there were some very valid points in what you said. Attraction, on whatever level whether it be physical or intellectual or spritual, can be fatal . Its a temptation and that cant always be held at bay, we are after all human. But I actually, of my own accord have decided i want to marry a muslim and at the moment i could see it any other way. But that is my preference and it no way necessarily applies to all. i have also learnt from the experiences of people close to me that in particular marrying a non-muslim is not an option. It causes too much hurt for various reasons from personal conflict extending to family. Everyone is different but its about compatability and if that transcendes religion for some couples then thats there choice.

ma Salam

[Kautar]

Merci bien okhti, hope you'll find your great love!

[Sista]

Thanks hun...Inshallah i think may already have

[Ghazala]

Originally posted by simple-

Speaking from experience? or just ASSuming?

Still not sure are you?

All Im saying is rather a few months mourning the loss of a relationship, than a lifetime mourning the fact of being married.

People shouldnt be afraid to cut loose if it isnt working. Not everything is meant to last after all.......