Christian men marrying Muslim women

[Arwen]

Louloute, Sorry to hear you are feeling so sad about things. Emgee is right, human relationships can be very complicated at times. Maybe because we make them so, putting on all the stresses about conforming to rules that the society we live in puts upon us.

There are only two people in your relationship, yourself and your husband..well three if you count God.. You answer to each other and to him. Religion in general has always been used by some as a tool to control the lives of people. It's often misinterpreted and God's true message often lost. You are not here on this earth to be unhappy, you do have a right to a happy life which you have found with your husband. That is a most precious gift, don't ever throw it away because some cause you to doubt. Don't look to hard for answers or try to seek approval for your love. God brought you together through fate, take that as a sign.

If you have children in the future as long as you love them that's all they need. We are only ever custodians of our children until they grow and are able to make choices for themselves, we just support them in what they do with the unconditional love a parent has for a child.

None of this probably helps you much, as you have to find your own answers. I hope you find inner peace soon. Sometimes the answers we seek we already hold in our heart but choose not to see them. Take care.

Oh, one more thing...you are never alone when there is someone who loves you.

[louloute]

I was wondering if there is any women around married to Christian men and raising them kids christian?

Thank you

[Arwen]

Sorry you've had no replies to your query louloute I am married to a christian man and we have raised our children together...but I do not think this is the experience you are looking for. It is from a muslim womens point of view I think you are enquiring from.

I suppose it's different for all, as we each know how much and on what points we are prepared to compromise. To be honest most Christians do not see religion as a barrier to happiness. we believe God is all forgiving and all loving. As a christian your husband has chosen to love you if you are really worried about what faith your children should adopt, talk to him about it, if it is a worry for you and you would be happier if your children were brought up as muslims, I think your husband would understand this.

I have friends who are christian women married to muslim men, they accept that their children will be brought up in Islam, as they understand that in Islam the faith of the child is from the fathers line. It's not a problem for them. Some have converted to Islam themselves but most have remained true to their christian faith and in neither case it has not been an insurmountable problem. Marraige is always about tolerence and compromise, if the love is there then it's not a hard task.