What made you wear the scarf?

[Honeey]

Salamou alaikom everyone

I am curious to know what made certain sisters wear the scarf?

This topic interests me, as so many reasons are out there!!!


WS H

[Ghazala]

Salam wa alaikoum Honeey,

I felt unhappy for a while but couldn't pinpoint the reason. I had been praying for several years & intended to wear hijab 'one day'. However, I wanted to 'live a bit more' first. Plus I tried to kid myself that it wasn't obligatory & I had a million & one excuses as it why it wasn't the time. You know, I would miss going to the beach. Miss wearing certain things. Think I wouldn't look 'attractive'. Silly superficial reasons I now realise. Anyway, a few events occured & I made a snap decision to just go ahead & try it out. My intention was just to give it a try. However, when I wore it, I realised that, actually, it isn't hard at all. The hardest step is psychological. Yes of course it takes time to adjust but to be honest, it's been less than a year & it feels like it's always been this way. Plus I had a feeling that I had made the right decision. You either feel it or you don't. In trying to perform this part of my Islamic duties, I feel like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders. I am also much happier in myself.

You must make the decision for yourself. Do not let anyone thrust it open you or dictate your relationship between yourself & Allah. We are accountable to noone but Allah so we must make our decisions accordingly. Don't be pressured into anything. We can only try to be good Muslims & hope that it is enough.

PS = let me tell you, your hair texture improves soooooooo much when your hair is shielded from the elements

[HOUDA-K]

Asslam Alaikoum Sisters,

Firstly, ~G~ I’m impressed at your posting and agree wholeheartedly especially your second paragraph.

And just want to add after ~G~'s posting that, when one thinks of wearing hijab, you must also be prepared to accept the added responsibility of being a visible representative of Islam, and therefore be on your best behaviour, being kind, fair, polite and following all of Allah's injunctions.

My personal experience is not inspirational in what I have to say. I was raised in a Muslim family, I was brought up with the basic principles and values that Islam instills. I was taught to pray, to fast, to be kind-hearted, and to share the deen of Allah graciously with those around me.

The thought of one day 'covering my head' NEVER popped into my mind, but the thought that almost always followed was - " I'm proud to be a Muslim."

After a holiday in Morocco, my identity became clear not only to me, but to every person I would encounter from that day forward and I’ve never looked back.

In closing, Hijab opens so many more doors than it closes, spiritually and socially. It is unfortunate that there are so many obstacles to our finding this joy and fulfillment, whether it be marriage, employment etc

This goes out to all the Sisters, that no what point you are at in your spiritual growth, remember that Allah knows what is in your heart and will not expect more of you than you are ready for.

So keep preparing yourself, so that when your time comes, you will be a strong, glowing vision of a person thoroughly committed to submitting herself to Allah, and proud of it!

Wa Salam

[Honeey]

Salamou alaikom girls,

Chourkrane for replying...

By the way mine is similar to Houda, I knew I wear one day, i done all my basics, but like both of yous I wanted to sort out my Internal hijab, eg Iman

WS H

[HOUDA-K]

When I decided to wear hijab, I remember having my very last doubt the verse in Surah Al Baqarah {{verse 286, I believe }}), continued to penetrate my heart:

"La yukalif Allah nafsin ila was3ha".

"On no soul doth Allah place a burden greater than it can bear".

These are the very words that gave me the courage to finally make the right choice. It was at that very moment that I said,

"Allah, I will wear this hijab because I believe in my heart that you have asked me to do so. Please guide me and give me the strength to do this."

Nearly a decade will pass insha Allah this summer I can honesty tell you that I have never felt more free or more at peace with myself and the world around me.

In all fairness I will be honest and tell you that it wasn't an easy thing to do. Quite frankly, it was probably the most difficult challenge I've had to face in my life.

Isn't it ironic how that works? The things that will benefit us most and that make the most sense are often those we fail to realise or have difficulty accepting.

I've had to deal with a variety of off-the-wall comments. But what it all boils down to is making a personal decision to increase your faith and become what I believe to be, a better Muslimah.

May Allah {{SWT}} may it easy for you ~ Honey ~

[Ghazala]

Originally posted by HOUDA-K

When one thinks of wearing hijab, you must also be prepared to accept the added responsibility of being a visible representative of Islam, and therefore be on your best behaviour, being kind, fair, polite and following all of Allah's injunctions.

In closing, Hijab opens so many more doors than it closes, spiritually and socially. It is unfortunate that there are so many obstacles to our finding this joy and fulfillment, whether it be marriage, employment etc

This goes out to all the Sisters, that no what point you are at in your spiritual growth, remember that Allah knows what is in your heart and will not expect more of you than you are ready for.

So keep preparing yourself, so that when your time comes, you will be a strong, glowing vision of a person thoroughly committed to submitting herself to Allah, and proud of it!

I have to agree entirely. Prior to wearing the hijab, I had awful visions of it closing doors. Of being restricted. Of becoming a prisoner. Of becoming boring, whatever that is. Of my friends not 'liking' me anymore. In fact, it is the opposite. I had a positive response from Muslims & non-Muslims alike, which makes the transition easier.

It is also true what Houda says about us being visible representatives of Islam & it does make you think more about your actions. As a result, you behave better. I remember the first time I went shopping after I wore hijab & a muhtajiba I encountered in the shop smiled & said 'Assalamu alaikoum'. Simple thing right? However, hearing salam from a random stranger in the street had never happened to me before. I found it really comforting because I was feeling self-conscious. However, I was also felt a bit ashamed because it made me realise that I hadn't heard it from strangers before because I wasn't identifiable as a Muslim. Noone ever knew I was a Muslim. So was I behaving like a Muslim? I had such awful guilt for the first few weeks. I am now identifiable & can truly say that I am proud to be. Strangers routinely say Assalumu alaikoum to me in the street as I do to them - in fact a lot of the time, I want to be the first to say it to get blessings

I have also noticed that I have become more relaxed as a person. In myself, in dealings with other people, and my faith is stronger as I am reading more. For example, when bad things happen, I don't stress about them as much as before. I accept, as we should all do, that it is inevitable & say Al-Hamdulilah. That is not to say that I don't get angry or anything, its just that you don't dwell so much.

Ok, enough rambling. You get the gist. It can be a positive experience when you are totally ready for it. Qan3a is important - you must have conviction in your decision & do it to please Allah alone. Not your father, not your fiance.

[Khalidz]

Mashallah...So refreshing to hear these story's wallah...

Allah y hdeena...Ameen