Hoor el 'Een

[Anonymous]

Especially to the married women out there, how do you feel about this?

This is one area where I find it very difficult to justify Islam. Sure Jannah is another dimension and we can't compare emotions here to emotions there, but what do you think of this rule.

http://www.islamonline.net/fatwa/eng...hFatwaID=25454

Also, lets talk about Iddah. When a woman is divorced , Iddah is three months (to ascertain paternity mainly). When a woman is widowed, Iddah is 4 months and 10 days. Why is Iddah due to husband's death longer than Iddah due to divorce? Because in the case of death, the wife should MOURN the husband for longer. So it goes beyond determining paternity , into mourning.

YET, when a Muslim woman dies, there is no period of MOURNING prescribed for the husband, he can get married the next day?

How do we explain/justify this?

[coolpharess]

salam
ALLAHO AALAM
all i know ...that mens weakness can lead him to comitting ZINA...
so ALLAH was mercefull..
and for the respect and honor of a women i believe she can wait al idah..40 days allaho aalam !
why are we weak

[_thetruth]

Originally posted by Anonymous
Especially to the married women out there, how do you feel about this?

This is one area where I find it very difficult to justify Islam. Sure Jannah is another dimension and we can't compare emotions here to emotions there, but what do you think of this rule.

http://www.islamonline.net/fatwa/eng...hFatwaID=25454

The answer was explaned on the other thread. Allah makes no difference between men or women, yes it is true that Men are the one who usually look for women etc.. and therefore the ayats were adressed to men since they are the one who are seeking. the ayats spoked of horeya as i explained before because that represented the most beautiful figure in Arabia at the time but later on in Madeena no ayats spoked of that word but instead of good companions. to understand the matter better one must also understand the way of life in Jahlya where women were treated like products So when the Quran speaks of women in heaven it would use something far better than what the juhalla were used to.you will see through out the Quran the word Salihat are refered to as pious women and saliheen9pious men) are the one who will enter heaven instead of muslimeen and muslimat.
the second question i shall inshallah come back to that in due course.

[moroccanchica]

IMHO babe who would want to marry just after divorce, or even a breakup for that matter? its an insult to yourself, deen and the other party.

[_thetruth]

Originally posted by moroccanchica
IMHO babe who would want to marry just after divorce, or even a breakup for that matter? its an insult to yourself, deen and the other party.

i found a grace period is usually a year at least for any normal person to go out and get married unless his/her last marriage was a real nightmare then I suppose it would be ok. that's just me anyway not sure about others think about t one needs time to be alone to reflect from past mistakes etc.. jumping to another relation is a grave mistake and allah knows best

[rocam]

http://www.islamonline.net/fatwa/eng...FatwaID=119875


http://www.islamonline.net/fatwa/eng...hFatwaID=57582

[Anonymous]

Rocam - I read those links. I understand that women would be rewarded in Paradise too and no-one (man or woman) will feel unhappy or unsatisfied in Jannah.

I am not questioning that, all I am saying is refer to my original thread, it says that Allah will remove jealousy from wives hearts so they they are not jealous of Hoor El-Een in paradise. Why even have this? Why remove jealousy instead of leaving a man just with his earth wife?

Or if Heaven is another dimension and we don't have to worry about paternity etc why not give the wives a male version of Hoor El-Een and remove jealousy from the husbands hearts?

Chica and Tihad - agree, it takes a while to get over the end of a relationship (whether by death or divorce). I am not disputing that.

What I am talking about here are the ISLAMIC RULES AND LAWS. Women HAVE to mourn for 4 months and 10 days, while men do not HAVE to mourn at all. Sure a hubby may wait a few years before he remarries but he is not COMPELLED to. Why?